How Do They Do It?!?!

I’ve always wondered how working mothers balance their time and life between their children, their husband, work, a social life and time for themselves.  I am not a mother or a wife yet, although Brent has been around for 8.5 years so he counts as someone that I need to find a balance with and fit into my life.  So I guess right now I do my best to find a balance between a boyfriend, work, social life and time for myself.  I would say that “time for myself” is the portion of my life that gets ignored the most.  But children…children and making time for them and finding that balance in my life once they’re here is the part that worries me.  I don’t have any yet, but I know that children take up a big part of your life and I’m worried I won’t be able to balance everything quite right.  Don’t get me wrong; I most definitely want children—lots of children.  5 to be exact.  Brent does not want that many.  When the time comes we shall see how much we can actually have and afford…haha!!!

I guess I’m just wondering if I will be able to do it all…be a business woman, have a family and be there for my family (because I don’t want a nanny who is there all the time while I am off working long hours) and still have a social life…and time for myself.  I guess I will not know until it actually happens, but I’m crossing my fingers that I will be able to find that balance.

These thoughts have crossed my mind many times…today it crossed my mind because I was so busy working on the business and I thought, “Oh my gosh, what if I had to pick up my children from school, do homework with them, bathe them, feed them and put them to bed.”  I would be so exhausted by the end of the day—who knows if I would be able to get back to work later at night.  It used to cross my mind a lot while I was teaching too, because I used to work long hours then as well.  I would usually be at school for a good 10 hours, then go home and work more, eat dinner, take a break and work again.  I usually stayed up working until midnight or 1 a.m.  I tried to get to bed by 1 a.m. so that I could get at least 5 hours of sleep so that I could be somewhat perky in the morning when I saw my Kindergarteners or First Graders.

All my friends who are mommies tell me not to worry about it and that I’ll figure out my own rhythm…I sure do hope so because I do love my job, but I know I’ll love being a mommy even more!!!  We shall see what the future has in store for me…

I’m not a mommy yet, but I have become an aunty many times…and I love it!!!  Here I am with some of my favorite kiddos!!!


Aunty Susan - April 17, 2011 - 9:10 am

Five ….. you better hurry up!!!

Mindy Metivier - April 15, 2011 - 6:42 pm

Haha!!! Kristen your story was hilarious!!! I can just see Treyton saying that too!!! Too funny!!! Thanks for the encouragement!!! And who know when the kids are coming…:P Hopefully sooner rather than later!!! I’m getting old!!! 😉

Kristen - April 15, 2011 - 6:48 am

You’re so funny! You’ll find a balance for sure. And there’ll be times you might forget something (not kids) here or there, but that’s okay! Take for example, the other day…Treyton got himself ready for school by himself cause we’re trying to teach him independence. Without our knowledge, he goes to school without any underwear!! Lol. After asking him where his underwear was after school…”mommy forgot to put one out for me!” haha. But hey, we all survived, so it’ll be okay. You’ll be fine. So BIG question…when’s the kids coming???

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